Relationships Are Hard, But Why: a talk by Stan Tatkin
Category Archives: relationships
Bird feeders, purpose and love
Here’s a quirky and poignant article by Tista Sen, about how a bird feeder brought purpose to her partner’s life, and renewed their long-term relationship. http://nyti.ms/2aHsahq
Stan Tatkin on “Fighting Well”
Watch this 5 minute video, full of good tips about fighting well with our partners. http://video.foxnews.com/v/4758580479001/how-fighting-well-can-strengthen-your-relationship/
Grief claymation
A poignant, bitter-sweet look at grief by Elisha Lim.
Sue Johnson on the 4 Laws of Love
Dr. Sue Johnson is a leader in the field of Emotionally Focussed Therapy. Have a look at what she has to say about attachment, atunement and love.
Understanding infidelity
Missing an ex and other troubles
Have you heard of Philippa Perry? She’s a psychotherapist and “agony auntie” who writes for The Guardian. Here are her video responses to callers who are getting through break-ups, looking for work, changing narratives about their sex lives, establishing adult relationships with parents and other life issues.
On loving more intelligently
Here’s Sue Johnson on loving more intelligently. What I find compelling about her talk is this: loss of connection triggers feelings of threat–of being rejected or abandoned. And she says we have no control over these feelings because we are hard wired to need connection. We do, however, have control over what we do with those feelings, and how we communicate them to our loved ones. Watch and see what you think:
How To Be Alone
Esther Perel on Desire in Long-Term Relationships
Must desire wane with time? Is Lesbian Bed Death (or it’s straight, gay and bi equivalents) inevitable? Here’s Esther Perel’s witty and astute take on how to blend both security and the erotic in long-term relationships.